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　　I have been watching my daughters play sports since they were four，and have been shocked at how some parents in the crowd behave．

　　At soccer games，when my girls were very young，parents would be screaming at their children to get their heads into the game，to charge，to"get"an opposing player，or to"kill it．"I understand parents want to encourage their children and their team-but at some point it becomes too much．

　　My daughter Grace is a high school and AAU （Association of American Universities） basketball player and a very good one at that．During a recent game，a parent sitting near me was shouting loudly to her daughter，standing up，expressing displeasure about the way her team was playing and，during halftime，speaking loudly about her personal life．After having her in my ear for more than half of the game，I was so put off that I had to move．

　　Admittedly，I am the quiet parent at games．I clap for the schoolgirls when they make wonderful plays．For the most part，however，I remain silent．Shouting out makes them nervous．

　　I asked Grace to weigh in on this，and she tells me："Some parents become extremely emotionally invested in sports games，which can become a problem for the players．The worst thing is when people point out that‘crazy parent，'and they don't know that's your parent．"

　　I am all for parent spectators cheering on their children and the rest of the team．But I hope you can cheer your children on in a positive way．Shouting things like，"Where's your head？""Go after her!"is not，in my view，the way to cheer on high school students or younger children．

　　If you have nothing positive to say，hold your tongue．If you find yourself struggling to keep it together，get some fresh air during halftime．

　　21．Unable to stand the mother nearby，the author___．

　　A．told her to shut up B．found another seat

　　C．asked Grace for help D．refused to talk to her

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