Don'thesitatetosay

　　Inourdailylife,therearemanyoccasionsonwhichweshouldnothesitatetosay"no"whenaskedforhelp.foronething,whenwearenotabletoofferhelp,weshouldgiveothersadirectreply"no".foranother,whenthethingweareaskedfroisunreasonableorevenillegal,weshouldalsosay"no"totherequirer.

　　However,itisnotthecaseinourreallife.manypeopleprefertosay"yes"whentheyshouldsay"no".ontheonehand,theyareafraidtolosetheirownface.sincetheythinkrefusalmeanstheirinability.ontheotherhand,theyareafraidtooffendtheiracquaintances"face,suckastheirfriends,relativesandsoon.

　　Infact,therearedisadvantagesindoingso,atfist,theyarenotableenoughorwillingenoughtodothethingforothers.therefore,thethingcannotbeaccomplishedwell.intheendtheymayloseboththeiracquaintances"beliefandtheirownfaces.

　　Whensomeonemakesasuggestionofferssomthingorasksyoutodosomthingforthem,wewillsaynoifwedon'twanttodoorwehavenotimetodo.

　　Butsomepeoplehesitatetosayno.Becausetheythinkit'srudetorefuseother'soffers.Theydon'twanttohurtothers.Inaddition,theyliketobeneededanduseful.Theywantsomeonecannotmakeitwithoutthem.

　　However,theraresomedisadvantages.Fisrt,itwilltakeuptoomuchtime.Youwillfeeltired.Second,youarenothonesttoyourfriendsandyourfamily.Youdon'ttellthemyourrealfeeling.Third,youloseyourselfbecauseyoualwaysdothingsforotherswhichyoudon'twanttodo.Sosometimesyouneedtosaynowhensomeoneasksyoutodosomethingforthem.Noticesay"thankyou"beforerefusetheoffer.