DoesPerfectLoveExist?

　　Mostofuslongforrelationshipsinwhichwearelovedandacceptedjustthewayweare.Ourhearts'desireistogiveandreceiveloveinrelationshipsthatmakeusfeelthateven

　　ifothersdisagreewithwhatwedoorsay,theystillloveus.Theyacceptus.Theyappreciateourcontributionstotheworld.Whileitwouldbewonderfultohavethesetypes

　　ofrelationshipswithallpeople,weknowthatthat'shardtodo.Wecan,however,havethemwithsomeothers,butonlywhenwefirsthavethemwithourselves-and,ironically讽刺地,thisisoftenthehardestrelationshipofall.

　　Oneofthereasonsmanyofusfindithardtoloveourselvesisbecausewedonotrealizethatwearealreadylovedinthemostdivine天赐的way.Godlovesus,totallyandunconditionally.

　　It'shardformanyofustobelievethisfactbecauseweknowhowimperfectweare,andwebelievewehavetobeperfectbeforeGodwillloveus.ThetruthisthatGod'slovemakesusperfect,evenwithourimperfections.Byknowingthistruthintellectually智力上

　　andbelievingitspiritually,wenotonlyloveourselvesmore;weloveothersmoreaswell.

　　Doyouloveyourself?Youmaythinkyoudo,butdoyoureally?There'sonlyonewaytofindout-bytakingacloserlookatwhatyouthink,say,anddo.Youmaynotlikesomeofwhatyoufind,butifyou'reseriousaboutreallylovingyourself,youcanusethisinsighttodosomepositiveinnerwork.

　　HerearethreewaysI'vefoundforgaininggreaterpersonalinsightfordeeperlove.

　　Listentoyourwordsandlistenevenmorecloselytoyourthoughts.Why?Becauseyourwordsandyourthoughtswilldetermineyouractions.Oneofthethingsthathashelpedmetolistentomythoughtshasbeentokeepajournal.Itisnotnecessaryforyoutowriteiniteveryday,butithelpstorecordvariousinsightsyougainasyougoaboutlivingyourlife.Insteadofusingabignotebook,youmightuseasmallnotepad便条纸簿thatyoucankeepinyourpurseorpocketforeasyaccesstorecordyourthoughtsastheyoccurtoyou.(I'vefoundthatifIdon'timmediatelywritedownideasandinsightsastheycome,it'shardtorememberthemlater,atleastwiththesamedegreeofclarity.)Whichevermethodyouchoose,what'smostimportantisthatyouwriteyourthoughtsdown.Itwillhelpyouknowwhat'sinyourheart.

　　Behonestwithyourselfbypayingattentiontoyouractions.Actionsspeaklouderthanwords,andtheyalwaystellthetruth.Whatdoyouractionssayaboutyou?Ifyousayyou

　　loveyourjob,butyouractionssayotherwise,whichdoyouthinkismoretrue-yourwordsoryouractions?Ontheotherhand,ifyousayyou'renotgoodatacertainjob,butyour

　　actionssayotherwise,that'salsoimportant.Whatdoyoudowiththisinsight?Youcanuseittomakemorebeneficialchoicesinyourlife.Bybeinghonestwithyourselfbasedonyourpreviousactions,youractionsmovingforwardwillbebasedontruthinsteadofjustwhatyoutellyourself.

　　Taketimeoutduringthedayforquiettimetolistentoyourinnervoice.IcallthisinnervoicethevoiceofGod.Thisissimilartopointnumberone,butittakesitastepfurther-beyondthenaturalmindtothesupernatural神奇的heart.Youmaywanttouseyourquiettimetomeditate沉思orpray.Howeveryouusethistime,thekeyistoshutoutallofthenoisearoundyoubyfocusingdeepwithinyourself.Breathingdeeplyduringquiettimewillalsohelpyoufocus.Iknowit'shardtofindqu