Ifitisnotakindofdestinyintheprotectionofthebaby,don'tlethimfeelthemotherleftthefearofwords,amomentthatwasborn,thebabywillfeelextremefear.Butthebabyafterbirthwithinaperiodoftimebeforehewasbornwiththedifferenceisnotmuch;hecannotrecognizeobjects,arenotawareoftheirexistenceaswellastheworldoutsidehisbodythere.Heonlyneedwarmthandfoodrequirements,butnotthedifferencebetweenwarm,foodandwarmthandfoodmother.Themothertothebabyiswarm,isfood,ishappyandsatisfiedstagebabysafe.ThisstageistheconceptofnarcissismstagebyFreud.Thesurroundingreality,peopleandobjects,whichcancausethebabybodysatisfactionordisappointmentwillproducesignificanceforhim.Ababycanonlyrealizehisinternalrequirements;theoutsideworldonlywithhisneedtoberealistic,buthasnothingtodowithhisrequesttotheoutsideworldismeaningless.

　　Thechildrenlearntocallthenameoftheobject,atthesametimelearninghowtotreattheseobjects;hebegantounderstandthefireishot,hotpeople,thewoodishard,andveryheavy,verylightcanbetornpaper.Healsostartedlearningtodealwithpeople:hesawifheeat,mothersmile;ifhecries,themotherputhimup;andifhegooddigestion,mothertopraisehim.Alltheseexperiencescoagulationandcomplementeachotherhasbecomeakindofexperience:that'swhatIloved.IlovedbecauseIwasthemotherofthechild.IwasinlovebecauseIbeisolatedandhelpless.IwasinlovebecauseI'mcuteandcanwinpeople.Inshort,IwasinlovebecauseIhavebeenlovingexpressionofcapital--morespecifically:IlovedbecauseIamI.Maternalloveexperienceisanegativeexperience.Idon'tdowhatwecantowintheloveofthemother,becausemotherisunconditional,Ionlyneedisthemotherofthechild.Loveisablessing,ispeaceful,doesnotneedtowinit,alsoneednotpay.Sidebutunconditionallovehasitsdefects.Thislovedoesnotneedtolookfor,butalsocannotwin.Ifthereislove,thereisablessing;nomaternallove,lifewillbeempty--andIhavenoabilitytoarousethematernallove.Dearisourhometown,nature,theearthandthesea.Andthefatherdoesnotrepresentanykindofnaturalorigin.Inthefirstfewyearsfatherwhatalmostnocontact,atthisstagetheeffectoffatherhardlythesamemother.Myfatherdoesnotrepresentthenaturalworld,theotherextremeisrepresentativeofhumanexistence:representstheworldofthought,createdbythelaw,orderanddisciplineandotherthingsintheworld.Fatheristoeducatethechildren,tothechildpointedouttotheworldthepersonoftheroad.

　　Fromthecloserelationshipwiththemotherofdevelopmenttothecloserelationshipwithhisfather,andfinallyachievecomprehensive,thisisthehumansoulhealthandreachmaturitybasis.