IdonotknowSybrinaFulton.NorcanIclaimtounderstandthedepthofherpain.Yetweshareadeepconnection.AcommonfeatureexperiencedbythosewomenwhofacethechallengeofraisingaBlackmalechildi

　　IdonotknowSybrinaFulton.NorcanIclaimtounderstandthedepthofherpain.Yetweshareadeepconnection.AcommonfeatureexperiencedbythosewomenwhofacethechallengeofraisingaBlackmalechildinanationthatfartoooftenviewsBlackmalebodiesthroughfear.YouseeMs.Fultonislivingmynightmare(恶梦).Aconstantworrythathasstayedinthebackofmymindsincethebirthofmyeldestsonsomesixteenyearsago.

　　ThroughtheyearsIhavewitnessedtheworld’sreactiontomysonevolveashehasgrownfromasmallboytoayoungman.Inhisearlyyearshiseasysmileandlovablecharacterwerenothinglessthanmagnetic(有磁性的).Completestrangerswouldapproachhiminthestreetdrawhimintoconversationandfindthemselveseasilystruckbyhislivelyspirit.EvenatthattimeIworriedhowwouldmysonreactwhenintheyearstocomesomeofthosewhofoundthemselvessoimpressedbythiscuteintelligentboymightgrasptheirpursetighterashewalkedby.

　　OvertheyearsIhavesoughttoprotecthisspiritfromthehurtthatcomesfromundeservedhatred.Ihavealsosoughttoarmhimwiththeknowledgethatcouldonedaysavehislife.Heknowsforexamplethatifheiseverpulledoverbythepolicethatheistokeepbothhandsonthewheelatalltimesandonlyreachforhislicensewhentheofficerisspecificallyobservinghisactions.Heknowseveninlessthreateningsituationsthatroughplayandloudinteractionswithhisbuddiesofanycolorwillbeviewedverydifferentlywhenhedoesitthanwhenhiswhitefriendsdisplaytheverysamebehavior.Stillthetruthofthematterisnoamountofadviceorvoicelessbehaviorovercomesthephysicalimmovablefactofthecolorofhisskin.Hisintelligenceeasysmileandlovablecharacterwon’tprotecthimfromunfoundedassumptionsofcriminality.

　　WhatmakestheTrayvonMartintravesty(歪曲)ofjusticesopainfultomepersonallyistheknowledgethatTrayvon’smotherlovedherbabynolessthanIlovemine.Thevariouspicturesofmomentsthroughoutahappychildhoodthathavenowfoundahomeonnationwidenewscastsprovidesclearevidenceofthat.Yetnoamountofloveandcareandnowordsofadvicecouldhavesavedhersonfromthecruelkillinghefacedatthehandsofaself-appointedneighborhoodwatch-dog.Andperhapsevenworsenothingcouldhavepreparedherforth