WhenIrecallmyexperiencesoffeelinghardanddeeplyunderstoodbysomeone，IknowhowmuchtheexperiencehelpedmetocopewithwhateverIwasdealingwithatthetime．CaringpeoplewhoIhaveturnedtoindifficulttimeshelpedmethemostby
When I recall my experiences of feeling hard and deeply understood by someone，I know
how much the experience helped me to cope with whatever I was dealing with at the time．Caring people who I have turned to in difficult times helped me the most by listening and asking about my feelings．
During one of my volunteer jobs at a local HIV and Cancer clinic，I found the helpfulness of empathic（感情移入的）listening．As a volunteer I was providing emotional support to people with health related problems．Empathic listening really made a difference on how patients felt about their health problems．By sharing about their pain and suffering and my willingness to listen they felt less alone．
We can make life easier for each other by becoming a better listener and encourage each other to share about our feelings．We can become a better listener by avoid giving advice and trying to solve problems unless we are asked to do so．Pressuring others to solve their life problems"our ways"is not helpful．Most people intuitively （凭直觉地know how to solve their own problems．As a listener it's important to be patient and not interrupt the speaker．Let them know it's OK to talk about their feelings and support them in feeling their feelings．
When one does not share nor reach out for support，he or she can remain a lonely mystery．Life can feel lonely when one keeps everything inside．Feeling alone with life problems can feel worse than the problem itself．When we let a caring person listen to our life struggle，we no longer feel alone with our struggle．Don't be afraid asking your loved ones to take time and hear you out．Sometimes you have to ask for it．People cannot read your mind．Confiding in（trust） others can have a positive effect on our mood．
21．What made the author comfortable in difficult times？___
A．Persuading．
B．Sharing．
C．Apologizing．
D．Complaining．
22．According to the second paragraph，we can know tha