Fivestepstotakeifyourchildisbeingbullied51Theworstthingyoucandoisignoreit.Toooftenparentsfeelchildrenandteensneedto“workthingsout”ontheirown.Iftheproblemisignored,yourchild’sself-esteemwillbe

　　Fivestepstotakeifyourchildisbeingbullied

　　51 Theworstthingyoucandoisignoreit.Toooftenparentsfeelchildrenandteensneedto“workthingsout”ontheirown.Iftheproblemisignored,yourchild’sself-esteemwillbecomeunhealthy,hewillbehurtmentallyorphysically,andhecouldbecomeabullyhimself.

　　Herearefivestepsyoucantakeifyourchildishavingproblemswithabully:

　　52 Thisisanimportantfirststepandwillhelpyourchildtrustthatyouareabletohelphimwithhisproblem.Acceptwhathehastosayatfacevaluebyusingyouractivelisteningskills.

　　Letyourchildknowthatheisnotalone. 53 Reassureyourchildthatheisnottheproblem.Nothinghedidcausedthebullytogoafterhim.

　　Ifyourchildisbeingthreatenedinaphysicalorillegalwayatschool,reporttheproblem.Yourchildmaynotwantyoutodothis,ortheschoolmaynottakeitseriously,butviolencecannotbetolerated. 54 Youwillneedtomodelassertive(果断的)behaviorbyalertingthoseinchargewherethebullyingistakingplace.

　　Teachyourchildassertivebehaviorandhowtoignoreroutineteasing.Letthemknowitisokaytosay“No.”sometimesevenfriendsbully,solettingyourchildknowtheycanbetruetotheirownfeelingsandsay“No”cangoalongway.

　　55 Givinguppossessionsorgivingintoabullyinanywayencouragesthebullytocontinue.Identifywaysforyourchildtorespondtoabully---showingassertivebutnotaggressivebehavior---androle-playthem.A．Believewhatyourchildtellsyou.B．Encourageyourchildnottogiveintoabully.C．Praiseyourchildforbeingbraveenoughtotalkaboutit.D．Bullyingisaterriblesituationforachildtohavetocopewith.E.Ifyouchoosenottodoanything,thatiswhatyou’reteachingyourchild.

　　F.Mostchildrenhavetodealwithsometypeofbullyingbehavioratonetimeoranother.

　　G.Ifyourchildcomestoyoubecauseabullyisbotheringhim,youneedtopaycloseattentiontotheproblem.