Everytimeyoumeetsomeonenewforthefirsttimeyouhaveonechancetomakeagoodimpression.71Itisnaturalforushumanstotalkaboutourselveswhenwemeetothers.Mostpeoplewouldwantto

　　Everytimeyoumeetsomeonenewforthefirsttimeyouhaveonechancetomakeagoodimpression. 71

　　Itisnaturalforushumanstotalkaboutourselveswhenwemeetothers.Mostpeoplewouldwanttotalkaboutallofthethingsthey’veachievedallofthewealthandskillstheyhavewheretheycomefromandwhotheyare.72

　　Butinsteadofworryingsomuchaboutwhattosayhowaboutjustlistening?73 Listeningtoothersmeansdevotingalittleofyourtimetosomeoneelse’sstory.Peoplefeelmoreengaged(参与)inaconversationiftheyfeelthatwhattheyaresayingisbeingappreciated.

　　74Theydon’tgoonaboutthemselves.Theydon’tshowoffortrytobesomethingtheyarenot.Theyaresimplytheretolendapatienteartothoseinneedandtheyonlygiveadvicewhentheyareaskedforit.Thustheyarethoughtofasbetterconversationaliststhanthosethattalktoomuch.

　　Sotrytolistentosomeonecarefully. 75 It’sfascinatingtoseethedifferencesthatcomefromjustshuttingupeveryonceinawhile.Perhapsifyoutrylisteningalittlemoreyoumightdiscoversomethingorsomeoneamazing.

　　A.Talkingtoomuchcanmakeothersunhappy.

　　B.Trynottogiveyourjudgmentoradvice.

　　C.Theyjustwanttoshowthebestofthemselves.

　　D.Makingagoodimpressiononotherswillbenefitusalot.

　　E.Therearepeoplewhospendtheirtimelisteningnotspeaking.

　　F.Yourimage（形象n.）isoftenformedinothers’mindsinthefirstfewminutes.

　　G.Afteryourintroductionjustlistentowhatyournewfriendhastosay.