Somechildrenarenatural-bornbosses.Theyhaveastrongneedtomakedecisions,managetheirenvironment,andleadratherthanfollow.StephenJackson,aYearOnestudent,“operatesunderthetheoryofwhat'smineismineandwhat'sy
Somechildrenarenatural-bornbosses.Theyhaveastrongneedtomakedecisions,managetheirenvironment,andleadratherthanfollow.StephenJackson,aYearOnestudent,“operatesunderthetheoryofwhat'smineismineandwhat'syoursismine,”sayshismother.“TheotherdayIboughttwonewStarWarslightsabers(剑).Later,IsawStephenwiththetwonewoneswhilehisbrotherwasusingthebeat-upones.”
“Examinetheextendedfamily,andyou'llprobablyfindabossygrandparent,aunt,uncleorcousinineverygeneration.It'saninheritabletrait,”saysRussellBarkley,aprofessorattheMedicalUniversityofSouthCarolina.Otherchildrenwhomaynotbeparticularlybossycangraduallygaindominance(支配地位)whentheysensetheirparentsareweak,hesitant,orindisagreementwitheachother.
Whetherit'sinbornnatureordevelopedcharacteratwork,toomuchcontrolinthehandsoftheyoungisn'thealthyforchildrenorthefamily.Fearisattherootofalotofbossybehavior,saysfamilypsychologistJohnTaylor.Children,hesaysinhisbookFromDefiancetoCooperation,“havesecretfeelingsofweakness”and“adesiretofeelsafe.”It'stheparents'roletoprovidethatprotection.
Whena“bosschild”doesn'tlearnlimitsathome,thestageissetforahostoftroublesoutsidethefamily.Theoverlywillfulandunbendingchildmayhavetroubleobeyingteachersorcoaches,forexample,ortroublekeepingfriends.Itcanbeprettylonelyasthetopdogifnoonelikesyourbossyways.
“Iseemoreandmoreparentsgivinguptheirpower,”saysBarkley,whohasstudiedbossybehaviorformorethan30years.“Theybendtoofarbecausetheydon'twanttobeasstrictastheirownparentswere.Buttheyalsofeellessconfidentabouttheirparentingskills.Theirkids,inturn,feelmoreanxious.”
1.BossychildrenlikeStephenJackson_________.
A.makegooddecisions
B.showself-centeredness
C.lackcarefromothers
D.havelittlesenseoffear
2.Theunderlinedphrase“inheritabletrait”inParagraph2means___________.
A.inbornnature
B.developedcharacter
C.acceptedtheory
D.particularenvironment
3.Thestudyonbossybehaviorimpliesthatparents________