【IliveinthelandofDisney，Hollywoodandyear-roundsun．Youmaythinkpeopleinsuchasplendid，fun-filledplacearehappierthanothers．Ifso，youhavesomemistakenideasaboutthenatureofhappiness．Manyintelligentpeoplestillequa】

　　IliveinthelandofDisney，Hollywoodandyear-roundsun．Youmaythinkpeopleinsuchasplendid，fun-filledplacearehappierthanothers．Ifso，youhavesomemistakenideasaboutthenatureofhappiness．

　　Manyintelligentpeoplestillequatehappinesswithfun．Thetruthisthatfunandhappinesshavelittleornothingincommon．Funiswhatweexperienceduringanact．Happinessiswhatweexperienceafteranact．Itisadeeper，morelastingemotion．Goingtoanamusementparkorballgame，watchingamovieortelevision，arefunactivitiesthathelpusrelax，temporarily（暂时） forgetourproblemsandmaybeevenlaugh．Buttheydonotbringhappiness，becausetheirpositiveeffectsendwhenthefunends．

　　IhaveoftenthoughtthatifHollywoodstarshavearoletoplay，itistoteachusthathappinesshasnothingtodowithfun．Theserich，beautifulindividualshaveconstantaccesstogreatparties，fancycars，expensivehomes，everythingthatspells"happiness"．Butinmemoir （回忆录） aftermemoir，theytelltheunhappinesshiddenbeneathalltheirfun：depression，alcoholism，drugaddiction，brokenmarriages，troubledchildrenandprofoundloneliness．

　　Askasinglemanwhyheresists（抗拒） marriage，ifhe'shonest，andhewilltellyouthatheisafraidofmakingacommitment，forcommitmentisinfactquitepainful．Thesinglelifeisfilledwithfun，adventureandexcitement．Marriagehassuchmoments，buttheyarenotitsmostdistinguishingfeatures．

　　Similarly，couplesthatchoosenottohavechildrenaredecidinginfavorofpainlessfunoverpainfulhappiness．Theycandineoutwhenevertheywantandsleepaslateastheycan．Coupleswithlittlechildrenareluckytogetawholenight'ssleeporathree-dayvacation．Idon'tknowanyparentwhowouldchoosethewordfuntodescriberaisingchildren．

　　Understandingandacceptingthattruehappinesshasnothingtodowithfunisoneofthemostliberating（解放性的） realizations．Itliberatestime：nowwecandevotemorehourstoactivitiesthatcanreallyincreaseourhappiness．Itliberatesmoney：buyingthatnewcarorthosefancyclothesthatwilldonothingtoincreaseourhappinessnowseemspointless．Anditliberatesusfromenvy：wenowunderstandthatallthoserichpeopleweweresosurearehappybecausetheyarealwa