HowtoLove

　　Loveisastrangething.Itcanbethemostamazingfeelingintheworld,oritcanreallyhurt,butintheendloveissomethingmost,ifnotallofus,willface.Whiletherearemanydifferentwaystodefineloveandtherearemanydifferentwaystolovesomeone(evenyourself),hereisageneralguidetoloving.

　　Steps

　　Sayit.Whenyousaythewords"ILoveYou",theyshouldcarrywiththemthedesiretoshowsomeonethatyoulovethem,notwhatyousimplywanttofeel.Whenyousayitmakesureyoureallymeanitandarewillingtodoanythingforthatspecialperson.

　　Empathize.Putyourselfinsomeoneelse'sshoes.Ratherthanimposeyourownexpectationsorattempttocontrolthem,trytounderstandhowtheyfeel,wheretheycomefrom,andwhotheyare.Realizehowtheycouldalsoloveyoubackjustaswell.

　　Loveunconditionally.Ifyoucannotloveanotherpersonwithoutattachingstipulations,thenitisnotloveatall,butdeep-seatedopportunism(onewhomakesthemostofanadvantage,oftenunmindfulofothers).Ifyourinterestisnotintheotherpersonassuch,butratherinhowthatpersoncanenhanceyourexperienceoflife,thenitisnotunconditional.Ifyouhavenointentionofimprovingthatperson鈥檚life,orallowingthatpersontobethemselvesandacceptingthemastheyare,andnotwhoyouwantthemtobe,thenyouarenotstrivingtolovethemunconditionally.

　　Expectnothinginreturn.Thatdoesn'tmeanyoushouldallowsomeonetomistreatorundervalueyou.Itmeansthatgivinglovedoesnotguaranteereceivinglove.Trylovingjustforthesakeoflove.Realizethatsomeonemayhaveadifferentwayofshowinghisorherloveforyou,donotexpecttobelovedbackinexactlythesameway.

　　Realizeitcanbelost.Ifyourealizethatyoucanlosetheoneyoulove,thenyouhaveagreaterappreciationofwhatyouhave.Thinkhowluckyyouaretohavesomeonetolove.Don'tmakeanidolofthepersonyoulove.Thiswillplacethemunderunduepressureandwilllikelyresultinyoulosingthem.

　　Tips

　　Itdoesnotmakeyouabadpersontodesiresomeoneelse'slove,eveniftheydonotloveyou.However,totrulylovesomeone,youmustletthembefree.Itisselfishtoblamethemforyourfeelings.

　　Therearemanytypesoflove,forexample:amother-sonloveisdifferentfromabestfriend'slove,whichisdifferentfromaromanticlove.Don'tbeashamedtotellanyonethatyouloveyourfriendsasmuchasyouloveanyoneelseinyourlife.

　　Youhavetofindsomeonethatwillsuityou,someoneyoufeelcomfortablewith-notjustsomeonetomakeloveto.

　　Asaword,lovecanbefoundworldwideandisoftenusedtodescribecompassionand/oremotionalattachment.Acceptingthoseyouloveforwhotheyareispartoflove.Youalsoneedtolearntoacceptyourselfbeforeyoucanacceptanother.Ifyoucannotloveyourself,howareyoutoloveanother?

　　Lovegenuinely.Donotcompareyourfeelingsnowtowhatyourfeelingswerewhenyouwerewithanothermate.Attimes,wecanexperiencerejection.

　　RealizethatloveisafeelingthatwikiHowcandescribeandattempttoassist,butultimately,youaretheonewhomusttakeactioninordertodiscoverlove.

　　Dothingsthatmaketheotherpersonfeelgood,butdonotsmotherthemwithgiftsandattention.

　　Considersometipsaboutwhatpeopleinlovedo.

　　Peopleinlovearesensitivetoeachother'sneeds,andendeavourtomeetthem