LearningtosayNO

　　We'veallbeentaughtthatweshouldhelppeople.Itistherightthingtodoandwill（可以去掉will）makeuspopularwithothers.Itmayevenwinusfavorsinreturn.However,wemustberealistic.Wecan'tsayyestoeveryrequest.Ifwedid,wewouldfailorgocrazyforsure.Sometimeswesimplydon'thavethe（去掉the）timetohelp.Inthiscase,wemustknowhowtosaynopolitely.

　　SayingNOcanbeverydifficult.Peoplewithlowself-esteemveryoftenhavealackofassertivenessandthinktheyhavetomeettheexpectationsofeveryone.（不太理解这句话的意思.低自尊的人总是喜欢迎合别人?低自尊和迎合别人有什么关系呢?）Itisveryhard（通常很少搭配veryhard.verydifficult是一个固定搭配.你可以说itishardtodo)forthemtosetlimitswithothers.(setlimitswithothers是什么意思呢）Theysometimesfeelashamedor（加上一个even会更好）guiltyiftheywouldsayNO.Buttodothingsagainstyourwillandpossibilitieswillendupinfeelingusedandresentful.（被利用了?可能你可以这样说：Howeveritisalsodifficulttoagainstyourwill.)

　　Asimpleanddirect"NO,Iamnotabletohelpyouwiththat"isthebestsolution.Ifyouwantto(haveto)giveanexplanationyoushouldkeepitsimple:”NO,Ihavealreadymadeananotherappointmentforthistime"or"NO,sorry.IamafraidIhavetodeclinebecauseIhavenosparetime."

　　Ifsomeonemakesarequestitisfairtoaskfortimetothinkitover.Thedecisionshouldbeuptoyou,butsometimesitisdifficulttosayNOrightnow.YoucantrytouseanempathicNO,ifyouwouldhavehelpedunderdifferentcircumstances:

　　Forexample,ifsomeoneaskyoutotakecareofhiscatyoumayrefuselikethis

　　"Sorry,no.Iwouldhavekeptyourcatnextweekend.ButIwillbeoffforvisit.Iknowitwillbehardtofindsomeonetotakecareoff(of)thecat.Iwilltrytohelpyounexttime."

　　Wemustnotfeelguiltyaboutsayingno.Sometimesrefusingothersistherightthingtodo.(Torefuseothersisreasonable.)Itcansaveourselves,andthem,alotoftrouble.Inshort,wecannotpleaseeveryoneallthetime.Refusingfavorsisapartoflife.

　　总的来说,不错.就是分论点少了点儿.你的总论点是：WeshouldlearntosayNO.但是你的分论点,我读完了,好像就是在说如果不拒绝别人,就会浪费我们很多时间和精力.如果可以,你可以写成总-分-总.总：weshouldlearntosayNo.分：whyweshouldlearntosayNO.Firstofall,Everyone'stimeandenergyislimited.然后分述；Secondly,...;Finally,.Allinall,...