Formanyparentsraisingateenagerislikefightingalongwarbutyearsgobywithoutanyclearwinner.Likeaborderconflictbetweenneighboringcountriestheparent-teenwarisaboutboundaries:WhereisthelinebetweenwhatIcontr

　　Formanyparentsraisingateenagerislikefightingalongwarbutyearsgobywithoutanyclearwinner.Likeaborderconflictbetweenneighboringcountriestheparent-teenwarisaboutboundaries:WhereisthelinebetweenwhatIcontrolandwhatyoudo?

　　Bothsideswantpeacebutneitherfeelsithasanypowertostoptheconflict.Inpartthisisbecauseneitheriswillingtoadmitanyresponsibilityforstartingit.Fromtheparents’pointofviewtheonlycauseoftheirfightistheiradolescents’completeunreasonableness.Andofcoursetheteensseeitinexactlythesamewayexceptoppositely.Bothfeeltrapped.

　　InthisarticleI’lldescribethreeno-winsituationsthatcommonlyarisebetweenteensandparentsandthensuggestsomewaysoutofthetrap.Thefirstno-winsituationisquarrelsoverunimportantthings.Examplesincludethecoloroftheteen’shairthecleanlinessofthebedroomthepreferredstyleofclothingthechild’sfailuretoeatagoodbreakfastbeforeschoolorhistendencytosleepuntilnoonontheweekends.Secondblamingthegoalofablamingbattleistomaketheotheradmitthathisbadattitudeisthereasonwhyeverythinggoeswrong.Thirdneedingtoberightitdoesn’tmatterwhatthetopicis----politicsthelawsofphysicsortheproperwaytobreakanegg----thepointoftheseargumentsistoprovethatyouarerightandtheotherpersoniswrongforbothwishtobeconsideredanauthority----someonewhoactuallyknowssomething----andthereforetocommandrespect.Unfortunatelyaslongasparentsandteenscontinuetoassumethattheyknowmorethantheotherthey’llcontinuetofightthesebattlesforeverandnevermakeanyrealprogress.

　　【小题1】Whydoestheauthorcomparetheparent-teenwartoaborderconflict?

　　A．bothcancontinueforgenerations.B．bothareaboutwheretodrawtheline.C．Neitherhasanyclearwinner.D．Neithercanbeputtoanend.【小题2】WhatdoestheunderlinedpartinParagraph2mean?A．Theteensblametheirparentsforstartingtheconflict.B．Theteensagreewiththeirparentsonthecauseoftheconflict.C．Theteensaccusetheirparentsofmisleadingthem.