Inthedailyfamilyeducation,parentsoftenintentionallyorunintentionallyplayedtwodifferentroles--redandwhiteface,seeminglyapull,astrictbroad,ahardandsoft,husbandandwifecooperatetacitunderstanding,butforthechildren'smoralcultivationisveryadverse.Nomatterwhichparentistooharshortooloose,ifthechild'seducationprocessexposedcontradiction,willbringaboutthesideeffect.Eveniftheotherchildrenhaveundeservedplace,alsodonottune,nottodifferencesinexposureinfrontofthechildren,butafterwardscoordination,otherwiseitwillreducetheeducationeffect,isnotconducivetochildren'sgrowth.

　　在日常的家庭教育中,父母往往有意或无意地扮演了两种不同的角色——红脸与白脸,表面上看似一打一拉、一严一宽、一硬一软,夫妻配合默契,实则对孩子的道德品质培育极为不利.无论父母哪一方过于严厉或过于放纵,若在孩子的教育过程中暴露出矛盾,都会带来副作用.即使发现对方教育子女有不当之处,也不要唱反调,不要把分歧暴露在孩子面前,而是事后再协调,否则会降低教育效果,不利于孩子成长.