每年新生入学是学校最热闹的时候,这一点,电子科技大学的王老师最有发言权,“学校里到处是亲友团,两个陪一个或者是三个陪一个.”担任多年学生工作的她经常看到新生报到注册交费填表都是父母完成,整理宿舍铺床等也都由父母一手包揽.寝室里家长爬上爬下、忙里忙外,孩子则在一旁吃零食打电话.好像是父母来上大学.

　　“从情感方面看家长的心情可以理解,如今几乎每个孩子都是独生子女,被全家视若珍宝.上大学要离开家,一个人生活,家长一路送去学校是可以理解的.问题是有的家长管得太多,想得太多了.”王老师表示,许多家长“包办”孩子的一切,事无巨细,不顾孩子已经是18岁的成年人,长此以往,对锻炼孩子的生活能力没有一点好处.相反,有了家长等于有了靠山,孩子自然不愿意多动手多吃苦,还觉得父母的行为是应该的,不帮孩子的父母反而不像话.

　　“其实,每年新生入学,学校都会做好各种准备,在各大车站设立新生接待点,并让师兄师姐们从各方面来指点帮助,家长大可放心让孩子一个人来上学,报到、注册、住宿自己都能办好.”

　　专家表示,在新生入学家长陪同的背后有一种心态大家比较忽略,就是父母本身有送孩子的意愿,父母是在满足自己的心理.省社会科学院的学者胡光伟表示,朝夕相处,不仅孩子对父母产生依赖,父母对孩子更产生依赖,而且这种依赖让父母在离开孩子后,无法“独立”.送孩子一程,听起来是满足孩子,其实是家长求得心理平衡的一种方式.

　　Newstudentseachyearisthemostpopularschools,this,oftheUniversityofElectronicScienceandTechnologyWangteachersaremostqualifiedtospeak,"theschoolisfullofrelativesandfriendsgroups,withatwoorthreewithone."AstheworkofherstudentsformanyyearsRegistrationisrequiredtoreportbackregularlytoseenewparentsarepaidtofillinaformtocomplete,finishingbedhostelalsowonsingle-handedlybytheparents.Parentsbedroom,climbupanddown,busy,busy,thechildreneatsnacksinaphonecalltooneside.Parentsliketogotocollege.

　　"Fromtheemotionalsidecanunderstandthefeelingsofparents,childrenarenowinalmosteverychild,familytreasuresShiruo.Toleavehometogotocollege,apersonoflife,parentssenttoschoolallthewayisunderstandable.ThequestionisGuandetaiduosomeparents,liketoomuch."Wangsaidmanyparents"arranged"forallchildren,micro,regardlessofthechildisalreadya18-year-oldadults,andifthingscontinuethisway,theexercisecapacityofchildren'slivesNogood.Ontheotherhand,hasbeenbackingthesameparents,childrennaturallydonotwanttodomoreandmorehardship,andalsofeelthatparentsshouldact,nottohelptheparentsinsteadofoutrageous.

　　"Infact,everyyearnewstudents,theschoolwillbereadytotakeallthemajorstationssetuptoreceivenewstudents,andtoallowseniorShijieMenfromvarioussourcestohelpteach,parentscanrestassuredthattheirchildrenapersontogotoschool,thereportregistered,Accommodationcanbetheirowngood."

　　Expertssaidthatparentsofnewstudentsbehindcomparedtoastateofmindwelosesightofisthatparentssendtheirchildrentohavethewishesoftheparentsintomeettheirownpsychological.ProvincialAcademyofSocialSciencesscholar,saidHuWei,dayandnighttogetalong,notonlyhaveadependentchildofparents,parentshavetorelymoreonchildren,andthisdependencesothatparentsleavingtheirchildren,cannotbe"independent."Sendtheirchildrentoone-way,thesoundistomeetthechildren,parentsareseekingawayofpsychologicalbalance.