Astrongantagonisticnatureofantagonisticpairsofchildren'spsychologicaldevelopment,dailystudyandlifeareharmful,ifleftunchecked,willlikelyresultinchildren'smentaldefects,seriousorevenaffectthefuturelife,studyandwork.Therefore,clearunderstandingofthesubstanceofrebellious,tohelpchildrentoovercometherebellious,fortheparentsisveryimportant.

　　Thechild'spsychologicalcharacteristicsmainlyasfollows:First,astrongsenseofindependence,showingahighdesire,likeputtingindistresswhentheyalwayswanttoexpressauniqueinsighttomakeanunusualmove,inordertogetattention,todemonstrateitsindependentpersonality.Thesecondisthepsychologicalcuriosity.Psychologistsbelievethatwhensomethingisdisabled,itiseasytoarousepeople'scuriosityandthirstforknowledge.Especiallyintheprohibitiononlywithoutanyexplanationofthecircumstances,astrongmysterymorecauseforspeculation.Those"youngpeopleshouldnotget"thefilmandtelevisionadvertisingistheuseofyoungpeoplecuriousaboutpsychology,soastoachievetoattractmoreyoungpeopletowatchpurposes.Thethirdisthepsychologicalopposite.Onceamongpeopleholdnegativeattitude,butalsoonhisview,behaviornegativeattitude.Forexampleteachersarelessadvancedstudentsalwayscriticizeandbackwardontheteachersaidthestudentscouldnotlistentothewordsofcynicismamongthegeneral.Fourth,extremepsychological.Duringadolescence,childrensocialexperienceshallow,stillquitealackofknowledgetoseeiftheproblemistoosimple,orevenveryone-sided,oftenfocusingononepointlessthantherest,butforthiscomplacency.

　　强烈的逆反性、对抗性对孩子的心理发育、日常学习和生活都是有害的,如果任其发展,将有可能造成孩子的心理缺陷,严重的甚至会影响将来的生活、学习和工作.因此,认清逆反心理的实质,帮助孩子克服逆反心理,对父母来说是非常重要的.

　　孩子的心理特点主要表现为：一是独立意识强,表现欲望高,喜欢标新立异,遇事总想发表独特的见解,做出异乎寻常的举动,以期引起别人的注意,显示其独立的个性.二是好奇心理.心理学家认为,当某事物被禁止时,很容易引起人们的好奇心和求知欲.尤其是在只作出禁止而又不作出任何解释的情况下,浓厚的神秘色彩更易引起人们的猜测.那些“青少年不宜”的影视广告就是利用青少年的好奇心理,从而达到吸引更多的青少年去观看的目的.三是对立心理.人与人之间一旦持有否定的态度,也会对他的观点、行为持否定态度.比如老师对后进学生总是批评,后进学生就可能对老师说的话都听不进去而产生逆反情绪.四是偏激心理.处于青春期的孩子社会阅历浅、知识面还相当缺乏,看问题过于简单,甚至相当片面,往往攻其一点,不及其余,却为此沾沾自喜.