【阅读理解。Likemostbigprojectslearningtomanageyourmotherwelliswhatyoushoulddo.HerearewhatIbelievethebeststepstowardsabetterrelationshipwithher.Theyarenotnecessarilysurprisingorrevolutionarybutt】
阅读理解。
Likemostbigprojectslearningtomanageyourmotherwelliswhatyoushoulddo.HerearewhatIbelieve
thebeststepstowardsabetterrelationshipwithher.Theyarenotnecessarilysurprisingorrevolutionarybut
theyhaveworkedformanypeople.Trythem.
Rememberyourmother'sage.Aschildrenweoftendonotthinkofourmotherashavinganage.Even
whenwebecomeconsciousofherasanindividualagedoesnotchangeourview;sheisstillourmother.
Knowingourmother'sagenotjustinnumbersofyearsbutintermsofherpsychologicalandphysicalstate
oftenhelpsustounderstandherbetter.
Listentoyourmother.Ihavefoundthatsometimesthethingsmymothertoldmelongagoareremarkably
useful.Ifyourmotherknowsthatyourespectherpointofviewevenifyoudonotshareititwillhelpher
feelclosetoyou.
Rememberthatyourmotherhasapast.Akeystepinmanagingourrelationshipwithourmotheristofind
outaboutherearlylife.Niclle'smothersufferedmuchduringtheSecondWorldWar."Myparentsareboth
Jewish-Turkish.TheymetinFranceandmarriedyoungforlove.Theywereintheirtwentieswhenwarbroke
outandbecausetheywereJewstheyhadtogointohiding.ShedoesspeaktomeaboutthewarandIthinkit
isimportanttoknowwhatshewentthrough.Itisapartofherlifethatmusthaveaffectedherdeeply."
Sometimesinlearningaboutourmother'spastweknowthatitcanencourageustothinkaboutherwholelife.
Askyourmotheraboutyourchildhoodhistory.MygrandparentsdiedwhenIwasyoung.Ifyouare
fortunateenoughtohavelivingfamilythinkofyourlifeasajigsaw(拼图)puzzleandaskasmanyquestions
asyoucantoputthepicturetogether.Understandingyourrootsandyourchildhoodcanhelpyouknowmore
clearlywhoyouareaspartofafamilywhichyousharewithyourmother.
Keepasenseofhumoraboutyourmother.IhaveoftenlistenedtostoriesofdifficultmothersandIhave
alsolistenedtothefollowingpieceofadvicewhichIhavefoundmosthelpful:Don'thaveasenseofhumor
failureaboutyourmother.
Rememberthatmanagingyourmothe