doesitfeellikeyouandyourparentsjustcan'tseeeyetoeyel?areyoualwaysfightingwiththemaboutyourlife?isallthearguingandbutting2heads(主要部分,要点)stressingyouout?followthesestepstofindsomepeace.here'show:

　　1.makealistofthethingsthatyouandyourparentsfightaboutthemost.

　　2.identify(确定)whatitisthatgetsyousoupsetorangry--areyoumadthatyourparentsdisagreewithyou,orareyouupsetthattheycan't/won'tseeyourpointofview3?

　　3.decideonafaircompromise(和解,妥协)--aresolution(解决)thatyoucanlivewithandthatyouthinkyourparents'willaccept.note:acompromisemeansyougiveupsomeofyourdemands--itdoesnotmeanthatyougetyourway4.

　　4.setupatimetotalktoyourparents,donotjustbringitupoverdinnerbutmakeanactualap-pointmentandtellthemthatyouhaveanimportantproposal(提议,建议)tomake.

　　5.bringyournoteswithyoutothemeetingsoyoucanstayontrackif/whenemmotionsgethigh.youmayevenwanttoconsiderreadingthenotetoyourparentslikeaspeech.

　　6.beforetalkingtoyourparents,takeafewdeepbreathsandthinkcalmingthoughts.makeapromisetoyourselfthatyouwillnotraiseyourvoiceorgetangryevenifyourparents"turnupthevolume."

　　7.whenyouhavepresentedyourcase(实情,情况)takeanotherdeepbreathandletyourparentstalk.reallylistentowhatyourparentshavetosay.evenifyoudonotlikewhattheyaresayingholdbackyourangerandkeepyourearsandmindopen.

　　8.avoidshuttingdownorgrowingfrustrated5.avoidinterruptingthemorjumpinginwitharebuttal(反驳).justlistenandabsorbwhattheysay.

　　9.ifyourparentsrejectyourproposal,stayfocusedandavoidgettingemmotional(情绪激动的).thankthemfortheirtimeandexpressyourdisappointmentthatyoucouldnotreachacompromise.

　　10.ifyourparentsacceptyourproposal,begratefulandassurethemthatyouwillnotletthemdown.thendoeverythingnecessarytoshowthemtheymadetherightdecisioningoingalong6withyou.

　　11.whatevertheoutcome,besuretodowhatyourparentsaskofyou.bygoingalongwiththeirwishesyoubuildtrustandshowyourmaturity(成熟)whichinturnmaymakethemmorewillingtorelaxtheirstandatafuturedate.

　　12.ifthetopicisaverysensitiveoneandyoustillcan'tseeeyetoeye,askyourparentswhattheyneedfromyouinorderforthemtoconsideryourproposal.

　　13.makeavow(誓言,誓约)togivethemwhattheyneedandaskthemifyoucanagreetorevisitthesubjectinafewweekstime.

　　14.iftheoutcomedisappointsyou,donotthrowafit7.gotoyourroomandwriteyourfeelingsinajournalorgooutsideandrideyourbikeorpunch(猛击)apillowtoblowoffsteam8.

　　你是否感到和父母的意见不能完全一致?你是否在生活方面经常和父母发生争执?所有这些争执和冲突是否都让你感到有压力?试试下面的方法,来找寻一些安宁.