Youryoungestsonordaughterhasjustgraduatedfromhighschoolandsoonheorshewilltradehisorherbedroominyourhomeforacollegeresidencehall.You’restartingtoworryaboutthecomingsilenceinyourhomeandarewondering
Youryoungestsonordaughterhasjustgraduatedfromhighschoolandsoonheorshewilltradehisorherbedroominyourhomeforacollegeresidencehall.You’restartingtoworryaboutthecomingsilenceinyourhomeandarewonderinghowyouwillfillthehoursthatyoupreviouslyspentwithyoursonordaughterattendinghisorherschoolandsportingevents.
Takeheart—theemptynest“isoftenworseinanticipation(预料)thaninday-to-daypractice”sayspsychologistBertHayslipJr.
Hayslipwhohasstudiedretirementadjustment(调整)andotheragingproblemssuchasagingsleeplessnessformanyyearspointsoutthatmoreoftenthannotchildrenwholeavedonotcompletelycutoffcontactwiththeirparents.Headvisesparentstothinkofitasaseriesoflifeeventsinsteadofasuddenchange.Healsosaysanemptynestcancausebiggerproblemstosurface“ifacouplehasn’tlookedaftertheirmarriagewhileraisingtheirchildren”.AccordingtoHayslipsomecouplesmayfindtheynolongerhaveanythingincommononcethechildrenareoutofthehouse.
Thinkingofanemptynestasthelossofchildrenmakestheadjustmentmoredifficult.“Withtheempty-nestsyndrome(综合症)parentsactuallyneedtodealwiththelossoftheparentingcontroloverchildrennotwithhavingreallylosttheirchildren”Hayslipsays.“Theyjusthavetofindanewwaytogetalongwiththeirchildren.”
“Relatingtotheircollege-agechildreninthisnewwaywillcomeeasilytoparentsasthemonthspass.Aswithmanythingsthepassageoftimehealsthepainofloss”Hayslipsays.
1.Whatdoesthe“emptynest”mean?
A.Children’scuttingoffcontactwiththeirparents.
B.Children’snotlikingspendingtimewiththeirparents.
C.Children’sgrowingupandleavinghome.
D.Children’snotacceptingparents’careandlove.
2.Whatdoestheunderlinedword“it”inthethirdparagraphreferto?
A.Retirementadjustment. B.Agingproblem.
C.Sleeplessness. D.Therealityofemptynest.
3.Whydomanyparentsfindithardtoadjusttotheempty-nestlife？
A.Becausetheythinktheyhaveactuallylosttheirchildren.
B.Becausetheyoftendisagreewiththeirchildrenonmanythings.