英语翻译ElvaRobisonwillneverforgetthephonecallshereceivedoneSeptembermorning.Herdaughter,Dianne,a22-year-oldcollegestudent,hadbeenkilledinacaraccident.TheweeksandmonthsthatfollowedwerefullofgriefforElva.Relative
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ElvaRobisonwillneverforgetthephonecallshereceivedoneSeptembermorning.Herdaughter,Dianne,a22-year-oldcollegestudent,hadbeenkilledinacaraccident.
TheweeksandmonthsthatfollowedwerefullofgriefforElva.Relatives,churchmembersandneighborsinhertinyfarmingtownofblueMound,Kan.,reachedouttoherandherfamily.ButElvadrewthegreatestcomfortfromheroldhighschoolstudent,IrmaHyson.IthappenedthatIrmahadlosther21-year-olddaughter,Nancy,inacaraccidentjustayearbefore.
NowIrmaandElvawouldspendhourscryingandtalkingabouttheirdaughters.Sometimestheywouldbringflowerstothecemeterytogether.IrmaunderstoodlikenooneelsewhatElvawasfeeling,andthatgaveElvastrength.
Inthemanyyearssincethen,thetwowomenhavecontinuedtoshareinoneanother’slosses,hardships—andjoys.“Idon’tknowwhatI’ddowithouther,”ElvasaysofIrma.“I’vetoldher,’Youhavesavedmylife.’AndIknowshefeelsthesamewayaboutme.”
Somestudiesfindthathavingawiderangeofsocialcontacts—belongingtochurchandcommunitygroupsaswellashavinganetworkoffriends—offersthegreatestprotection.Butothersshowthatthemostimportantishavingbeenjustafewclosefriends—“Qualitybeatsquantityallthetime,”saysLauraCarstensenofStanfordUniversity.ElvaandIrmawouldsurelyagree.FiveyearsafterIrma’sdaughterdied,herhusband,Paul,waskilledinatractoraccident.ElvaimmediatelywenttoIrma’ssideandhelpedwithhouseholdtasksandanythingelseshecould.“Shepracticallylivedhereforawhile,”Irmasays.
WhenElva’shusband,Truman,diedinJanuary2001,Irmastayedclosebyherside.Elva’sdoctorsuggestedshegetcounseling(心理咨询)orjoinasupportgroupforthebereaved(失去亲人的).ButElvatoldhimshereallydidn’tneedanyofthatbecauseshehadIrma.
Bothcelebratingtheir84thbirthdaysthisyear,thetwobestfriendsstilldrive,travelandkeepgunshandytoscarethewolvesofftheirfarms.
Infact,there’ssolidscientificevidencethatfriendshipcanextendlife.Peoplewithstrongsocialnetworksareshownto:
increasetheirchancesofsurvivinglife-threateningillnesses;
havestrongerimmune(免疫)systems;