【Ifyouwanttoteachyourchildrenhowtosaysorry,youmustbegoodatsayingityourself,especiallytoyourownchildren.Buthowyousayitcanbequitetricky.Ifyousaytoyourchildren"I'msorryIgotangrywithyou,but...",whatfollowst】

　　Ifyouwanttoteachyourchildrenhowtosaysorry,youmustbegoodatsayingityourself,especiallytoyourownchildren.Buthowyousayitcanbequitetricky.

　　Ifyousaytoyourchildren"I'msorryIgotangrywithyou,but...",whatfollowsthat"but"canmaketheapologyineffective:"Ihadabadday"or"yournoisewasgivingmeaheadache"leavesthepersonwhohasbeeninjuredfeelingthatheshouldbeapologizingforhisbadbehaviorinexpectinganapology.

　　Anothermeansbywhichpeapleappeartoapologizewithoutactuallydoingsoistosay"I'msorryyou'reupset";thissuggeststhatyouaresomehowatfaultforallowingyourselftogetupsetbywhattheotherpersonhasdone.

　　Thenthereisthegeneral,all-coveringapology,whichavoidsthenecessityofidentifyingaspecificactthatisparticularlyhurtfulorinsulting,andwhichthepersonwhoisapologizingshouldpromisenevertodoagain.Saying"I'muselessasaparent"doesnotcommitapersontoanyspecificimprovement.

　　Thesepseudo-apologies(假道歉)areusedbypeoplewhobelievesayingsorryshowsweakness.Parentswhowishtoteachtheirchildrentoapologizeshouldseeitasasignofstrength,andthereforenottakethesepseudo-apologies.

　　Butevenwhenpresentedwithexamplesofrealapology,childfenstillneedhelptobecomeawareofthecomplexitiesofsayingsorry. Athree-year-oldmightneedhelpinun-derstandingthatotherchildrenfeelpainjustashedoes,andthathittingaplaymateovertheheadwithaheavytoyrequiresanapology.Asix-year-oldmightneedremindingthatspoilingotherchildren'sexpectationscanrequireanapology.A12-year-oldmightneedtobeshownthatdestroyingthebiscuittinwithoutaskingpermissionisacceptable,butthat

　　borrowingaparent'sclotheswithoutpermissionisnotIfamotheradds"but"toanapology,________Accordingtotheauthor,saying"Iamsorryyouareupset"mostprobablymeans“_______”Itisnotadvisabletousethegeneral,all-coveringapologybecause_______Welearnfromthelastparagraphthatinteachingchildrentosaysorry_______Itcanbeinferredfromthepassagethatapologizingproperlyis________

　　A.thechildmayfindtheapologyeasiertoaccept

　　B.thechildmayfeelthatheowesheranapology

　　C