Weallknowthatmoneycan'tbuyhappinessbutmanytimesweactasifwewerehappierwithabitmoremoney.Weareconditionedtowanttoberich(whenweknowthericharen'thappyeither);wearetrainedtowantthelatestgadget(asmallto
Weallknowthatmoneycan'tbuyhappinessbutmanytimesweactasifwewerehappierwithabitmoremoney.Weareconditionedtowanttoberich(whenweknowthericharen'thappyeither);wearetrainedtowantthelatestgadget(asmalltool)orstylethattelevisiontellsustowant;wewanttoearnmoremoneybecausethenwe'llhaveagoodlife.
Butnoneofthemwillbringushappiness.Nomatterhowmuchweearnnomatterhowmuchwehaveinthebanknomatterhowniceourclothingorcarsortoysnoneofthemwillmakeushappier.Andthesadthingisthatitcouldtakeusdecadestopursuewealthandluxurious(奢侈)itemsbeforewerealizethis.
Sowhatwillbringushappiness?Luckilyit'sthesethreethingsthatdon'tcostathing.Thesethreethingshavebeenprovenbysurveysofhundredsofthousandsofpeopleaboutwhattheyhavewhattheirlivesarelikeandhowhappytheyare.
HeretheyaretheThreeSecretstoHappiness:
1.Goodrelationships.Wehaveahumanneedtobeclosetoandtobeintimatewithotherhumanbeings.Havinggoodandsupportivefriendshipsastrongmarriageorcloseandlovingrelationshipswithourfamilymemberswillmakeusmuchmorelikelytobehappy.
Actionsteps:Taketimetodaytospendtimewithyourlovedonestotellthemwhattheymeantoyoutolistentothemandtodevelopyourrelationshipswiththem.
2.Positivethinking.I'mobviouslyabigsupporterofpositivethinkingasthebestwaytoachieveyourgoalsanditturnsoutthatitcanleadtohappinesstoo.Optimismandself-esteemaresomeofthebestindicatorsofpeoplewholeadhappylives.Happypeoplefeelempoweredtakecontroloftheirlivesandhaveapositiveoutlookonlife.
Actionsteps:Makepositivethinkingahabit.Infactthisshouldbeoneofthefirsthabitsyoudevelop.Getintothehabitofgettingridofallnegativethoughtsandreplacingthemwithpositiveones.Insteadof"Ican't"think"Ican".Itmaysoundsillybutitworksformeeverytime.
3.Flow.ThisisapopularconceptontheInternetthesedays-astateweenterwhenwearecompletelyfocusedontheworkortaskbeforeus.Wearesoburiedinourtaskthatwelosetrackoftime.Havingworkandleisurethatgetyouinthisstateofflowwillalmostundoubtedlyleadtohappiness.Peoplefindgreates