Weallgothroughtimeswhenwefeelwearenotgoodenough.Wemightfeelthatwayatworkorinschoolorevenasaparent.Herearesomethingstorememberwhenyoufeellikethat.1.36WhenIs
Weallgothroughtimeswhenwefeelwearenotgoodenough.Wemightfeelthatwayatworkorinschoolorevenasaparent.Herearesomethingstorememberwhenyoufeellikethat.
1. 36 WhenIstartedmyPh.D.programIfeltlikethedumbestpersonineveryclass.Icouldn’tbelievehowmanysmartpeoplewerethere.Ididn’tknowifIcouldmeasureuptotheirintelligenceorcompeteinthesameleaguewiththem.YearslaterIfoundoutthatalmosteveryonefeltthiswaytoo.
2.Youareuniqueandhavespecialtalents.IfyoucanbarelymakeHamburgerHelperdon’tcompareyourselftoyoursisterwhoisachef(厨师).I’msureyoucandomanythingsthatshecan’t. 37 Youareyou.Youarenotyoursister.
3.Youneedtostopchasingperfection.Itdoesn’texist.What’sperfecttomeisnotperfecttoyou.Soifyouthinkthatthereissomeobjectivemeasurementofperfectionandthattherestoftheworldisjudgingyouagainstthenyouarewrong. 38
4. 39 Oursenseofself-worthisbasedinourthoughts.Wehavebeenprogrammedformanyyearswiththoughtsaboutourselves.Messagescomefromourparentsourpeersteachersthemediaandourownlabels.Butguesswhat?Theyareonlythoughts.Justbecauseyouthinkthesethoughtsitdoesn’tmakethemtrue. 40
A.Youhavethepowertochangeyourfuture.
B.Sofocusonyourownpassionsandtalents.
C.Youarenottheonlyonewhofeelsthisway.
D.Ifyouloveyourselfforwhoyouareotherpeoplewillnotice.
E.Youneedtochangeyourthoughtpatterns.
F.Oneofmyfavoritesayingsis“Don’tbelieveanegativethoughtyouthink!”
G.Mostpeoplearetooworriedabouttheirownlackofperfectiontojudgeyou.